All posts filed under: 4TH TRIMESTER

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New Baby Challenges

The new baby challenges vary from family to family – some babies adapt easily to their new surroundings, while others need more time and reassurance as they adjust. It’s important to remember that no two days are the same for a baby because their brain is always developing and growing. Babies also react to any stress around them as well, which means they pick up on how we are feeling. If we are stressed, a baby may be more upset and need to cling more to us and it becomes a bit of a cycle. The early weeks with your new baby can feel chaotic with no routine or predictable patterns – this will most probably start to come after 3 months. While this chaos is very normal it can create stress and tiredness for you. How to look after yourself during the 4th trimester… Try not to battle with your baby – it is less stressful to work with your baby and to try to meet his needs. The early days and weeks can …

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Growth Spurts In Babies

Growth spurts can affect behaviour as well as how settled or playful a baby is. This can also knock your confidence and question your ability to settle and soothe your baby. When do growth spurts happen? Every baby develops at their own rate and they can change quickly from one week to the next, especially in the early months. This is a rough guide to when growth spurts happen. For some babies, they are mild but for others they are intense, especially at 4 and 10 months. Changes in baby behaviour unpredictable – you may have thought you were getting to know your baby and then they seem to suddenly change harder to settle – babies can cry more and seem to be more fussy some babies are very sleepy while other babies could fight sleep most babies will need to cling and may only want mum – this about feeling safe as babies get older they may become shy with other people a strong need to suck – this can be calming babies can …

Life with a newborn

Life with a newborn baby can feel a bit chaotic because no-one has all the answers with a baby. Those early days, weeks and months can be full of challenges and emotion. It can help to be kind to yourself, keep your days simple, give your baby time to adjust and take your time to get to know your baby. Trust your instincts – cuddle, feed and carry your new baby to soothe and comfort. You will not be spoiling him, you will not be making a rod for your own back – you will be providing love, comfort and security. Give yourself time to get to know your baby and time to adjust to your new life with them. You both need time to get to know each other, so you can get used to how your baby is communicating with you through sounds, cries, movement and behaviour. As part of life with a newborn you may need to accept or ask for help – you do not need to be superwoman and feel …

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Can I Cuddle My Baby?

The question Can I Cuddle My Baby? comes up a lot especially from new mums with a baby who just wants to cling. My aim with this post is to provide good information about baby development, our parenting instincts, what’s normal and why cuddling our babies and children is not just lovely it’s crucial. In our society babies can be seen as creatures to control and to train, and parents are encouraged to make their babies independent and self soothing. Any parent who cuddles and carries and soothes their babies can be seen as giving in, as failing, as making a rod for their own back. So, if you are asking Can I Cuddle My Baby? Here’s what the research tell us… When your baby is born  he has approximately 200 billion brain cells but there are very few connections in his higher brain – these connections are mainly responsible for  emotional and social intelligence. 90% of brain growth takes place in the first five years of life Early stress (prolonged crying) can create negative changes in  baby’s …

Making a rod for my back

I have teenage daughters and I have been reflecting on life as a mother and on those early days, weeks and months with my babies when I felt a bit lost, like I was doing it wrong and being told I was making a rod for my back. Becoming a mother was a huge transition – as it is for most of us. I became more selfless and able and I learnt to trust my instincts. Before I became a mum I was never interested in breastfeeding or co-sleeping – in fact I mocked it when I went to antenatal classes..  When I was pregnant, I started reading and talking to friends who were mothers and they spoke positively – although fairly realistically – about birth and feeding and my thoughts started to change. I read well – Sheila Kitzinger and Ina May Gaskin – and I started listening to my instincts. I booked a homebirth with a birthing pool and I planned to breastfeed – still wasn’t convinced by the co-sleeping though! Armed with good …