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make a rod for your own back

You’ll make a rod for your own back

To ‘make a rod for your own back’ is to do something that inadvertently creates troubles or misfortune in the future. The expression is usually used when someone has done something which seemed like a good idea at the time but comes back to bite them in some unexpected way. http://www.phrases.org.uk I now have children at college and in university and I have been reflecting on life as a mother and on those early days, weeks and months with my babies when I felt a bit lost, like I was doing it wrong and being told I was making a rod for my back. Becoming a mother was a huge transition – as it is for most of us. I became more selfless and I learnt to trust my instincts. Before I became a mum I was never interested in breastfeeding or co-sleeping – in fact I mocked it when I went to antenatal classes..  When I was pregnant, I started reading and talking to friends who were mothers and they spoke positively – although fairly realistically …

For new mums

It is important for new mums to look after themselves. As a new mum you may be healing and you will be adjusting to life with your new baby. All the focus can be on the new baby – feeding, sleep, carrying, watching, keeping alive – so it is easy to forget to focus on your needs. The early days and weeks can vary but I do know that it is important to make time to be looked after and to think about your wellbeing as well. It can be important for new mums to… talk and be open about how you are feeling physically and emotionally about birth and about life with your new baby rest – you will be tired eat and drink regularly – to boost your energy get reassurance and support with any low mood or feeling out of your depth focus on your baby and try not to compare with other babies ask for and seek help – from your partner, from family, from friends – so you can rest …

Simple steps for parent wellbeing

These steps for parent wellbeing are all about the small changes you can make to feel a bit better. None of these steps are new, I am not reinventing anything, they are a reminder of the small things you can do everyday to look after yourself because this is what can get lost when you are a parent. breathe Knowing how to use your breathing is your super power. It can help with anxiety, stress or panic, with aches and pains, it can give you more energy and it can give you focus and control. write Anyone who has ever had a consultation with me knows that I see a lot of benefit in writing things down. Worries seem way more manageable on a piece of paper and you can’t go far wrong with a good list. Anything that helps to clear the chaos in your head has to be a good thing! eat We all know that eating well is important but the junk can creep in. Trying to focus on eating healthily for …

Personal Consultations

My practice specialises in 1:1 sessions with parents – this focuses on your need for information, support and reassurance about pregnancy, birth, your baby, being a parent and looking after you. Pregnancy Giving you the opportunity to ask questions, gather information and talk through decisions as well as any worries. Birth Preparation Consultations Tailored to you, these sessions provide a foundation of robust knowledge, strategies and skills you can rely on. Baby Preparation Consultations To better prepare for life beyond the birth of your baby. Birth Debrief To talk through and make sense of the birth of your baby Postnatal Consultations To focus on your family throughout the first year with your baby. Consultations For Mums For you, the person behind the parent, to work through different issues while balancing being a parent. As an experienced practitioner, I am not here to tell you what to do – I am here to listen, to inform, to reassure and to provide an experienced perspective. To find out more – send a message here.Janine Smith | A specialist …

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Mental Health And Being A Parent

Parenting comes with a range of emotions and feelings, it is so unique for each of us. Good support, reassurance, talking, reaching out and honesty can make a huge difference to how we feel and how we cope – sometimes there are solutions, sometimes there are not. pride uncertainty confidence anxiety depression unmotivated fiesty empowered afraid isolated supported vulnerable strong despair selfless frustration love laughter lack of confidence overwhelming love able low mood unable anger calm fulfilled lost grief happiness love family selfish alone confused emotional love organised challenged in control responsible heartache out of control tense relaxed whole complete love overwhelmed sad afraid joy instinctive envious brave connected disconnected guilt love content struggling included satisfied ok excluded trapped grown-up tired failure energised fine focused loved clouded helpless powerful unhappy ignored hope The intensity and severity of these feelings will be different for every parent. For some, the negatives are fleeting but for others they are consuming and more support may be needed, although talking it through and getting a boost is always worthwhile. A …