All posts filed under: Let’s Talk About Being A Parent

Simple steps for parent wellbeing

These steps for parent wellbeing are all about the small changes you can make to feel a bit better. None of these steps are new, I am not reinventing anything, they are a reminder of the small things you can do everyday to look after yourself because this is what can get lost when you are a parent. breathe Knowing how to use your breathing is your super power. It can help with anxiety, stress or panic, with aches and pains, it can give you more energy and it can give you focus and control. write Anyone who has ever had a consultation with me knows that I see a lot of benefit in writing things down. Worries seem way more manageable on a piece of paper and you can’t go far wrong with a good list. Anything that helps to clear the chaos in your head has to be a good thing! eat We all know that eating well is important but the junk can creep in. Trying to focus on eating healthily for …

Personal Consultations

My practice specialises in 1:1 sessions with parents – this focuses on your need for information, support and reassurance about pregnancy, birth, your baby, being a parent and looking after you. Pregnancy Giving you the opportunity to ask questions, gather information and talk through decisions as well as any worries. Birth Preparation Consultations Tailored to you, these sessions provide a foundation of robust knowledge, strategies and skills you can rely on. Baby Preparation Consultations To better prepare for life beyond the birth of your baby. Birth Debrief To talk through and make sense of the birth of your baby Postnatal Consultations To focus on your family throughout the first year with your baby. Consultations For Mums For you, the person behind the parent, to work through different issues while balancing being a parent. As an experienced practitioner, I am not here to tell you what to do – I am here to listen, to inform, to reassure and to provide an experienced perspective. To find out more – send a message here.Janine Smith | A specialist …

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Mental Health And Being A Parent

Parenting comes with a range of emotions and feelings, it is so unique for each of us. Good support, reassurance, talking, reaching out and honesty can make a huge difference to how we feel and how we cope – sometimes there are solutions, sometimes there are not. pride uncertainty confidence anxiety depression unmotivated fiesty empowered afraid isolated supported vulnerable strong despair selfless frustration love laughter lack of confidence overwhelming love able low mood unable anger calm fulfilled lost grief happiness love family selfish alone confused emotional love organised challenged in control responsible heartache out of control tense relaxed whole complete love overwhelmed sad afraid joy instinctive envious brave connected disconnected guilt love content struggling included satisfied ok excluded trapped grown-up tired failure energised fine focused loved clouded helpless powerful unhappy ignored hope The intensity and severity of these feelings will be different for every parent. For some, the negatives are fleeting but for others they are consuming and more support may be needed, although talking it through and getting a boost is always worthwhile. A …

Why a birth debrief matters…

It’s a chance to talk through and make sense of the birth of your baby, which may have been different from your expectations or it may have left you feeling upset or in shock. There is no set time to have a birth debrief session, I see parents at different points after the birth of a baby‚Ķ you might want to talk it through during the first weeks or months when it is fresh in your mind you could be thinking about having another baby but the birth is still weighing on your mind or you might be pregnant again and in need of a debrief before you can prepare properly for birth again. Talking through birth is a huge part of my postnatal sessions, and I work with a lot of parents on a one-to-one basis to talk it through in greater detail. It really helps to be open and honest about how you are feeling, maybe saying things to me that you wouldn’t share with anyone else for fear of worrying them. Birth …

Mothers and the emotional load

Much is written about the motherload – the organising of children’s schedules and the household, – but let’s focus on the emotional load for a second – feeling responsible for, monitoring and worrying about your child’s wellbeing and development. It’s a huge load to carry, it takes time and investment and it can be overwhelming and exhausting. It’s part of the parenting package, it is crucial to older children and teenagers yet it is another invisible role often of mothers although I am sure plenty of dads take this on as well. Children always need our time and attention, as parents we need to listen to what they are really saying through, often through their actions rather than their words. And this is vital as children get older and then become teenagers – we often need to be their cheerleader, their counsellor, their life coach and their personal assistant (in addition to taxi driver, cook and entertainment’s officer) for them and their friends. This role starts when we carry our newborn baby when they need …