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what do you need in pregnancy

Pregnancy Checklist: what do you need?

What you need during your pregnancy will no doubt vary but it is a question to keep referring to so you can look after your needs. There can be pressure during pregnancy to keep going as normal because pregnancy is not an illness, even though you could feel ill. Pregnancy is a time to listen to your body and to look after your need for rest, food and comfort because you are making another human. Asking what do I need can be about connecting with those basic needs and, sometimes, asking for more help and support. Do you need a break? How & when can that happen? Do you need rest? How & when can that happen? Is there anything you can do ease/manage nausea? Do you need to work through any anxieties or worries? Who can you speak to for help with this? Do you need to eat? Do you need to drink more? If you feel isolated, do you need support and reassurance? Who can you speak to for help with this? Do …

preparing for your new baby

Baby Preparation

Baby preparation is as important as birth preparation – to think about what you and your new baby might need, what to expect and how to prepare your home. It’s really easy to buy loads in order to feel better prepared, it can certainly make some of the anxiety about looking after a newborn easier to handle. But new babies need very little. Essentials for your new baby Clothing – sleepsuits, body suits, socks and a hat nappies, cotton wool, cleaning cloths, wipes (depending on how you are planning to do it) changing mat changing bag cellular blankets and sheets somewhere safe to sleep – moses basket, cot, your bed sling car seat/pram system large and small muslin squares bottles/formula/breastpump/silicon breastpump/sterilizing equipment – if you want an alternative to breastfeeding v pillows for feeding towels, baby sponge/cloth baby bath or a bath support (or you can use the sink or pop baby in the bath with you) You will add to this as you need it and as your baby grows and changes. Preparing your …

pregnancy after loss

Pregnancy After Loss

Pregnancy after loss – miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death – can be a time of anxiety and worry which can range from mild to extreme. This can ease as your pregnancy progresses or you may remain anxious until your baby is safely in your arms. You might feel cautious about telling people or about preparing for birth and bringing your baby home. It is also possible to feel frustrated with other people around you who don’t quite understand why you may be feeling anxious or cautious. I work with parents to help them prepare for birth again and for meeting their baby. You may be preparing to do labour & birth again, you may be induced and you might be planning a caesarean. It can help to talk through all of these options so you feel better prepared and less anxious about birth. With pregnancy after loss, it can be important to prepare well for birth. Private birth preparation means you can take your time and focus on your individual for information, support and reassurance. Your …

pregnancy again

Pregnancy & birth again…

If you are experiencing pregnancy again, it might feel familiar or it can be a very different experience with brand new symptoms. Your pregnancy may involve fewer midwife appointments – although you can ask for more if you need them. If you experienced conditions such as pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes or obstetric cholestasis in your last pregnancy, you may be offered more checks this time. You may need to take your other children to your scans and midwife appointments – it can be useful to write down any questions for your midwife because you might get distracted, and take snacks and toys just incase you have to wait around. Life is busy when you have children so it is very normal to feel like you are not really focusing on your pregnancy, on your baby and on your birth preparation in the same way. I work with a lot of 2nd and 3rd time parents and many of them get in touch with me during their third trimester when they need to get focused on birth …

going over your due date

Going Over Your Due Date – what can help?

Your due date is set at about 40 weeks but most labours will start between 37- 42 weeks. It is easy to focus on that due date so if you go beyond it, you may feel like the countdown to induction has begun. Some women can then feel fed up and anxious. So what can you do about it? Keep busy and distracted… Find stuff to do – get your house ready for your recovery and when your baby is here, cook, fill the freezer, meet friends, go for coffee, go on dates with your partner, go to the movies, go for a massage, go swimming, go for walks, read, relax, chill. And just potter and hangout – sleep, stay in pjs, watch movies. Relax… If you feel anxious or worried, try to relax. Being tense might prevent labour from starting so use your breathing to chill and try to remember that your baby will come when he is ready. Go on a date… Enjoy some time together before your baby arrives: movies, meals, music, …