All posts tagged: Being A Parent

Birth, Baby & Family Directory

The Birth, Baby & Family Directory is an essential guide to the best services and practitioners for parents, along with a range of brilliant shops and products. As a trusted source of information for parents and families from pregnancy through to teenagers, it is essential for me to be able to provide links to the best services, products and practitioners for children, parents and families across Newcastle & Tyneside. I only work alongside businesses who are experienced, professional, recommended and who fit in well with the supportive ethos of Birth, Baby & Family. Supporting small businesses is important to me and this is a network of wonderful people who are passionate about what they do, who are excellent at what they do and I recommend them to parents… The Core Team is a pool of specialist knowledge… The Birth, Baby & Family Practice – antenatal classes, postnatal support, baby massage, weaning an ongoing parent support Debbie Donaldson – pregnancy & postnatal fitness specialist plus running and hulahoop courses Julia McCarthy at Sanctuary House – massage and reflexology Puddle Ducks – aquanatal, …

Mothers and the emotional load

Much is written about the motherload – the organising of children’s schedules and the household, – but let’s focus on the emotional load for a second – feeling responsible for, monitoring and worrying about your child’s wellbeing and development. It’s a huge load to carry, it takes time and investment and it can be overwhelming and exhausting. It’s part of the parenting package, it is crucial to older children and teenagers yet it is another invisible role often of mothers although I am sure plenty of dads take this on as well. Children always need our time and attention, as parents we need to listen to what they are really saying through, often through their actions rather than their words. And this is vital as children get older and then become teenagers – we often need to be their cheerleader, their counsellor, their life coach and their personal assistant (in addition to taxi driver, cook and entertainment’s officer) for them and their friends. This role starts when we carry our newborn baby when they need …

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The importance of creating a will and a lasting power of attorney…

A will can be something we put off and I know many parents who do this because they don’t want to think about or decide who would raise their children if they were no longer able to.  Sarah Gray talks us through the importance of making a will and why a lasting power of attorney is important… As a young lawyer in my 20s I did not consider for one moment what would happen if I was involved in an accident or if I was to develop a serious illness. Life was abundant, I had everything to look forward to, and I was working hard to build a family and career. The importance of making a will and considering protecting my family did not even really hit me when I had my daughter in my 30s. At that stage I was too busy fitting in working life around bringing up a young child, keeping active and trying to get some sort of balance in amongst the mad busyness of life. But life has a funny …

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Enjoying Every Second…

I will never forget the first time I heard someone say “enjoy every second with her” about my time with my daughter, who was a few weeks old. My first thought was ‘you’ve got to be fucking kidding me, enjoy her, I’m too knackered to enjoy her’ and then I felt the guilt that I wasn’t enjoying my gorgeous, tiny, precious baby. I loved her, I felt incredibly protective of her and I did everything within my power to keep her healthy, safe, alive – I kept breastfeeding when I didn’t have a clue and when I cried with every latch (thankfully the bad latch was sorted and feeding was a dream after that); I got up every hour in the night; I tried to listen to my instincts and I cuddled her and I gazed at her when she slept, although that was more relief that she wasn’t crying than of enjoyment. My first baby – who didn’t do sleep – nearly broke me. Of course I did enjoy her – when she started …

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Parenting & acceptance

Acceptance: willingness to tolerate a difficult situation Being a parent can be one of the most frustrating and challenging experiences – because we want to get it right, we want our children to be happy and healthy and because their behaviour can be challenging to us whether we are dealing with a sleepless baby, a tantrumming toddler or a hormonal teenager. I have been pondering parenting alot recently – based on my own experiences, comments from friends and the words from many of the parents I see at the Birth & Baby Family Centre and I reckon a key part of parenting is acceptance – acceptance of the constant learning curve, acceptance that we don’t always have or need the answers, acceptance that our child is his own person, acceptance that we often don’t have any control, acceptance that we are not doing anything wrong, acceptance that we are doing our best and acceptance that they are but a child. In our modern society we are usually desperate for solutions, we are fearful of the consequences of getting it …