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I hated being pregnant

I hated being pregnant – 5 different experiences

The feeling of “I hated being pregnant” could be more common than you think. Pregnancy can be a complicated and emotional rollercoaster and it’s just not a blissful or happy experience for some women. Not all pregnancies are wanted or expected and some come with the added issues of illness and decision-making. Or you could have a very wanted pregnancy, everything is going well but you hate it – not everyone has to enjoy those 9 months, even though that is probably the hope and expectation. Over the years I have spoken to hundreds of pregnant women and everyone’s experience is so individual but not many women feel comfortable about saying “I hated being pregnant.” I hated being pregnant – feeling ill “I just felt so ill – right from the beginning I felt really nauseous, day and night. I was never actually sick but I felt constantly sea sick. I kept waiting for it to get better but it never really did – it eased a bit during my second trimester but came back …

second-time parents

Birth preparation for second-time parents

When you are about to become second-time parents, or maybe even third or fourth-time parents, you still need to get ready for birth and a new baby again. Some of the second-time parents I see want to do the full antenatal course again – to thoroughly refresh their knowledge and skills, while others want to focus on more specific issues. As second-time parents, here are some of the birth & baby preparation options for you I work with a lot of second-time parents so I know how precious time can be and I am familiar with many of the issues second and third time around. Consultation Package These 1:1 sessions will be tailored to you. With a combination of birth debrief, talking through any concerns or worries about birth or having a new baby and discussing specific options & strategies, you will be better prepared with refreshed birth or baby knowledge. £150 with three 60-90minute consultation sessions, which can be arranged at a time to best suit you. Includes: access to birth preparation resources with downloadable worksheets. Plus …

new baby tips

what new baby tips would you give about the early days/weeks?

I asked parents what their new baby tips would be for anyone expecting or with a new baby. “Try not to put too much pressure on yourself…don’t measure your abilities to other new mums (most of them try to make it sound easier than it is), lots of rest with your baby, get to know each other and don’t expect too much from yourself. Babies are hard work and that’s a fact, but they’re also little bundles of miracle.” “Batch cook and stock up the freezer before baby arrives – this saved us from living on takeaways when I couldn’t make it to the shops. Also that you will cry for no reason for eight weeks after birth, hormones are just crazy, this is normal.” “Don’t be afraid to tell people you don’t want to hand over your baby. So many people walk into a room and grab the baby! Tell them to back up and you’ll share the cuddles when you’re ready.” “Sleep every time they do. The housework and chores can wait. You’ve …

Some of this week’s conversations and questions

It’s been a busy week seeing parents face-to-face, writing and online, where I mainly live now. There have been many conversations about the motherload, feeling tired and keeping going this week. We have talked about what mums need because life with a baby (and possibly a toddler or pre-schooler as well) is busy and full on. Conversations have included: relax & breathe – using this as a parent as well as for birth baby sleep – what’s normal and what to expect postnatal expectations and thinking about this from pregnancy birth recovery – how varied this can be and how we need to talk about it more being induced – how to prepare combination feeding – when to start and how to do it the motherload – how long have you got?? birth preparation – contractions, energy and having a say in hospital with busy midwives I am always here to inform, support and reassure – it’s what I am trained to do and it’s what I am passionate about. Working with parents since 2002 …

baby in a onesie lying on bed

2 pieces of bad parenting advice that made me angry

When I hear about and see bad parenting advice I usually want to scream. Bad parenting advice can range from the possibly well-intentioned comments around feeding, sleep, weaning, having a break which may have moved on from previous decades, thanks to research, to the guidance and throw away comments from health professionals who should know better. And then there’s the books and the practitioners who want to sell you a package and a solution. I can’t stress this enough – babies are not a problem to be solved! We need to better understand them, what they need, how they grow and thrive. And most parents just need this knowledge along with support through the tough days and reassurance to know that it is normal and that it will eventually pass. When you first become a parent, it is easy to feel overwhelmed and confused by all the conflicting information and advice. As you try to work what what you are doing, it can also be difficult to know which advice is right and which advice …