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what did you do for you today?

Discussion: What did you do for you today?

I love this question because, as a busy mum, it always makes me stop in my tracks and think about just what have I done for me? It doesn’t have to be big – the small things matter just as much – but this question can focus your mind on your day and what part of it was for you. Doing something for you can be about doing something that makes you feel happy, proud, accomplished, calm or it can provide a sense of relief, a chance to just stop for a while. It can make you feel like you have some time out, some time to switch off, some time to stop juggling and thinking about what else needs doing. I really do think this is important for all of us when I am busy and struggle to do anything for me, I start to crave an opportunity to just be and to stop doing. Doing something for you could be reading, writing, fitness, walking, having a bath, cooking, seeing friends, going for a …

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Enjoying Every Second…

I will never forget the first time I heard someone say “enjoy every second with her” about my time with my daughter, who was a few weeks old. My first thought was ‘you’ve got to be fucking kidding me, enjoy her, I’m too knackered to enjoy her’ and then I felt the guilt that I wasn’t enjoying my gorgeous, tiny, precious baby. I loved her, I felt incredibly protective of her and I did everything within my power to keep her healthy, safe, alive – I kept breastfeeding when I didn’t have a clue and when I cried with every latch (thankfully the bad latch was sorted and feeding was a dream after that); I got up every hour in the night; I tried to listen to my instincts and I cuddled her and I gazed at her when she slept, although that was more relief that she wasn’t crying than of enjoyment. My first baby – who didn’t do sleep – nearly broke me. Of course I did enjoy her – when she started …

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Being a mum

Being a mum means I am protector, teacher, nurse, carer, counsellor, coach, taxi driver and I worry more about my children than anything else in my life – the moment they were born, I was also handed a bag of guilt and a bag of worry. As a parent, I am a wonderful mixture of laid-back and panic-worrier, there’s not much in-between apart from the occasional nag. As my children have grown older I have had to adapt to their freedom – whether it is being on top of the climbing frame, going out on their own with friends, sleepovers and going to parties – and I have never held them back unless I have felt it was inappropriate or unsafe. Since having teenagers, I have had sleepless nights of anxiety and worry, sometimes accompanied by panic when my imagination has immediately gone to the dead-in-a-ditch scenario. Being a mum has meant a heart full of love, which can sometimes be hurt with worry and loss and fear. I have worried that I am doing the right …