All posts tagged: #tynesidemums

Loneliness of Motherhood

Having young children is not all about coffee shops and idle chatter. It is not a holiday. It can be one of the toughest times in a woman’s life. The loneliness can be torture. With your first child, the learning curve is steep – learning to keep a baby settled, soothed and alive while recovering from pregnancy, birth and unrealistic expectations of how motherhood would be. We are often sleep deprived, in need of supportive mum friends and it can feel like we are on our own with the day-to-day responsibilities of looking after our baby. In our society mothers are often judged, with unreal expectations stacked against them and their children. It can be a hard slog. When you become a mother it doesn’t matter what job you do, how old you are or how much you spent in Mothercare preparing for your baby’s arrival – you have a baby to look after and it can knock your confidence when they cry, need a poo, won’t sleep and won’t settle anywhere but in your …

what did you do for you today?

Discussion: What did you do for you today?

I love this question because, as a busy mum, it always makes me stop in my tracks and think about just what have I done for me? It doesn’t have to be big – the small things matter just as much – but this question can focus your mind on your day and what part of it was for you. Doing something for you can be about doing something that makes you feel happy, proud, accomplished, calm or it can provide a sense of relief, a chance to just stop for a while. It can make you feel like you have some time out, some time to switch off, some time to stop juggling and thinking about what else needs doing. I really do think this is important for all of us when I am busy and struggle to do anything for me, I start to crave an opportunity to just be and to stop doing. Doing something for you could be reading, writing, fitness, walking, having a bath, cooking, seeing friends, going for a …

Being Middle-Aged

I want to write about being a middle-aged woman, mother, wife and friend with the menopause – my experience is by no means unique, so I am sure some of my ponderings will resonate. Physically, age happens and I don’t just mean with new aches and pains, grey hair and chin hair, although that is also there. I mean with hormones and the changes that come with the peri-menopause. Functioning with sleeplessness, lack of energy, struggles with concentration and fluctuating hormones, which can make me feel on top of the world and completely worthless from one day to the next. And with this comes mental aging when a different perspective might happen – and it hits us all differently. I am at a point where I want to slow down, I want less stress, less juggling, less pressure and more settledness, more calmness and more freedom to do what I enjoy, both at work and personally. As a 46 year old woman, life can be very much about fixes – wrinkle creams, concealers, HRT, mood stabilisers, hair dye, getting into shape, dieting… …

The Menopause

Parenting and the menopause don’t go together that well! My menopause, or perimenopause because I still have periods, is unpredictable, my moods shift, I am tired and I can feel overwhelmed by juggling work, home and family. This year I have made some major changes – work has been simplified so I can focus on the sessions that make a difference; my health is more of a priority so I am eating well and walking more; and I am giving myself more downtime so there’s more life balance and a lot less stress. All of this means I am accepting and trying to take more control of life with the menopause, it also means I have more energy and more time for my children and the demands that come with parenting. I run my own business and I love my work but I need it to be more focused and less stressful so there’s less juggling, so there is less to feel overwhelmed about. A few weeks in, I feel calmer and happier. I have two teenage children who …