Author: Janine Smith

new baby tips

what new baby tips would you give about the early days/weeks?

I asked parents what their new baby tips would be for anyone expecting or with a new baby. “Try not to put too much pressure on yourself…don’t measure your abilities to other new mums (most of them try to make it sound easier than it is), lots of rest with your baby, get to know each other and don’t expect too much from yourself. Babies are hard work and that’s a fact, but they’re also little bundles of miracle.” “Batch cook and stock up the freezer before baby arrives – this saved us from living on takeaways when I couldn’t make it to the shops. Also that you will cry for no reason for eight weeks after birth, hormones are just crazy, this is normal.” “Don’t be afraid to tell people you don’t want to hand over your baby. So many people walk into a room and grab the baby! Tell them to back up and you’ll share the cuddles when you’re ready.” “Sleep every time they do. The housework and chores can wait. You’ve …

Pregnancy in your words: amazing

Some women feel truly amazing during pregnancy – they can feel well, they can feel happy, they can feel awesome. I love how different and individual pregnancy can be. While it can be challenging for some women, it can be amazing for others who feel brilliant. Working with parents since 2002 Say hello…Instagram | Facebook Group | Linkedin

Some of this week’s conversations and questions

It’s been a busy week seeing parents face-to-face, writing and online, where I mainly live now. There have been many conversations about the motherload, feeling tired and keeping going this week. We have talked about what mums need because life with a baby (and possibly a toddler or pre-schooler as well) is busy and full on. Conversations have included: relax & breathe – using this as a parent as well as for birth baby sleep – what’s normal and what to expect postnatal expectations and thinking about this from pregnancy birth recovery – how varied this can be and how we need to talk about it more being induced – how to prepare combination feeding – when to start and how to do it the motherload – how long have you got?? birth preparation – contractions, energy and having a say in hospital with busy midwives I am always here to inform, support and reassure – it’s what I am trained to do and it’s what I am passionate about. Working with parents since 2002 …

baby in a onesie lying on bed

2 pieces of bad parenting advice that made me angry

When I hear about and see bad parenting advice I usually want to scream. Bad parenting advice can range from the possibly well-intentioned comments around feeding, sleep, weaning, having a break which may have moved on from previous decades, thanks to research, to the guidance and throw away comments from health professionals who should know better. And then there’s the books and the practitioners who want to sell you a package and a solution. I can’t stress this enough – babies are not a problem to be solved! We need to better understand them, what they need, how they grow and thrive. And most parents just need this knowledge along with support through the tough days and reassurance to know that it is normal and that it will eventually pass. When you first become a parent, it is easy to feel overwhelmed and confused by all the conflicting information and advice. As you try to work what what you are doing, it can also be difficult to know which advice is right and which advice …

birth preparation

14 ways to focus on having a straightforward birth

Focusing on straightforward birth This is an essential part of your birth preparation so you are equipped with knowledge and skills to help labour along. If you can have a strong foundation of information with practical skills and strategies to use when you need them, you can focus on what works and adapt if your birth plan needs to change. Of course this doesn’t mean that interventions won’t become necessary, it just means that your preparation and perspective is about what you can do with or without interventions: saying what you need asking questions so you know more about your options movement and gravity – even on a bed using you breathing being supported and informed resting and conserving energy eating and drinking putting yourself at the centre of your care My philosophy with birth preparation is about doing birth on purpose so you have more realistic expectations, so you think about what you want birth to be and so you can be better prepared if your ideal birth doesn’t happen. It’s important not to …