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mental health and the menopause

Mental health and the menopause

Mental health and the menopause isn’t really talked about but they are so heavily connected and the impact of it can affect women so intensely. Mention menopause symptoms and people say hot flushes and an end to periods. But there’s a great long list of symptoms which last for years and years and mental health is at the heart of it. As I write this, I have misplaced something important and I can’t work out where it is or even when I last had it. My head is full of hormonal fog because I’m guessing my period is coming and I’m feeling pretty frustrated about it although that is mainly because I will now have to tidy the house in an attempt to locate it. This is an example of the annoying things that can happen – not the end of the world but it’s enough to knock confidences and enable that feeling of stupidity. I will be 50 next year and I have been experiencing some kind of peri-menopause since my early 40s mainly …

woman looking at sea while sitting on beach

The things people can say to someone who is depressed

People can make unhelpful comments about depression and, while this may often be unintentional, they can be hurtful leaving people feeling unheard and isolated. Personally I don’t like a lot of attention or fuss so when I do open up to say I’m struggling, it would be great to receive a warm, caring response rather than comments that are dismissive. Depression is often dismissed because it is seen as being someone who is just a bit sad and we all get sad, someone who is self-obsessed, someone who needs to get a grip, someone who takes up time. But the truth is that it is a real life-affecting illness that may not have a solution – medication doesn’t always work and neither does yoga, exercise and eating healthily. These are some of the comments I have received and heard about other people… You seem fine to me What have you got to be depressed about Steven has it so much worse than you You just need to change the way you think Maybe think about …

living with depression

For mental health awareness week: find out more about living with depression

Depression can feel desperate and helpless with nothing providing any joy. It is very complex, affecting everyone differently. Some people have a long lasting low mood that impacts every day life, that needs managing to feel able to do normal activities. For me, walking, writing, reading, catching up with friends, being with my kids, doing the things I enjoy can pull me around, it can lift my mood, it can get me through the day. And for other people there is the severe all-consuming depression when it is possible to feel like you are trudging through thick mud, when it isn’t possible to think clearly or possible talk constructively. For me, I’m grateful that it doesn’t happen often but there is no turning this around, this has to be endured until it passes. This isn’t just about being in a low mood, this is an all-consuming muddy fog that can be both physically and emotionally painful. We all know that the basics can help – moving, eating, breathing, water, nature – but sometimes nothing is …

World Menopause Day

It is World Menopause Day and I would just like to share my experience of perimenopause because it has been very challenging. Women’s hormones have been the butt of jokes forever with periods and menopause belittled to just women’s problems so let’s not deal with them. Women have been dealing with this secretly and alone – thankfully this is changing but we still need more education, knowledge, discussion, conversation and policies to acknowledge these challenges and to better support women. Perimenopause has left me exhausted, emotional and lacking in confidence and worth. Sometimes I can’t sleep, sometimes all I can do is sleep, I can struggle to see the joy in anything, my anxiety can be through the roof, my depression can be deep, I can have brain fog, I can hate myself, I have migraines and gum issues. My friends, who are the same age, obviously get it and we all support each other but there’s no: are you ok? how can I help? do you want to talk about it? from anyone else. …

Simple steps for parent wellbeing

These steps for parent wellbeing are all about the small changes you can make to feel a bit better. None of these steps are new, I am not reinventing anything, they are a reminder of the small things you can do everyday to look after yourself because this is what can get lost when you are a parent. breathe Knowing how to use your breathing is your super power. It can help with anxiety, stress or panic, with aches and pains, it can give you more energy and it can give you focus and control. write Anyone who has ever had a consultation with me knows that I see a lot of benefit in writing things down. Worries seem way more manageable on a piece of paper and you can’t go far wrong with a good list. Anything that helps to clear the chaos in your head has to be a good thing! eat We all know that eating well is important but the junk can creep in. Trying to focus on eating healthily for …