If you are experiencing pregnancy again, it might feel familiar or it can be a very different experience with brand new symptoms.
Your pregnancy may involve fewer midwife appointments – although you can ask for more if you need them. If you experienced conditions such as pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes or obstetric cholestasis in your last pregnancy, you may be offered more checks this time.
You may need to take your other children to your scans and midwife appointments – it can be useful to write down any questions for your midwife because you might get distracted, and take snacks and toys just incase you have to wait around.
Life is busy when you have children so it is very normal to feel like you are not really focusing on your pregnancy, on your baby and on your birth preparation in the same way. I work with a lot of 2nd and 3rd time parents and many of them get in touch with me during their third trimester when they need to get focused on birth again – some parents want to do an antenatal course and others need 1:1 sessions.
You could be faced
with different birth options this time around, as well as a need to
debrief your previous birth before you can focus on giving birth
again. It can be important to gather relevant information so you know
more about your options and how to be better prepared.
One of the biggest considerations when thinking about birth again is childcare – your older children need to be taken care of so you can have a baby: you might have family on hand to help out at a moment’s notice or you may need to rely on a combination of friends or family – make a list of names with numbers and availability so you can know who you can call on when labour starts.
You could also be experiencing a new level of tired because you have an older child to look after and you are most probably juggling work as well so there’s not really much chance to have a break. Grab as much rest as you can with early nights and as many lie-ins as possible if naps aren’t happening.
Get in touch to talk through and prepare for birth again – it can be helpful to refresh your knowledge and skills, to talk through your options and to get your head ready for birth again.