The Being Mum project is about capturing the reality of life for mums after pregnancy, birth and with a baby.
Working full time
The world I’ve brought children into
Everything with my eldest – I am too tired to play, the baby needs so much attention and I worry that she is playing on her own too much
I worry about not having a wider social circle for him, making him reliant on me
I worry that reflux has restricted her physical development and I feel guilty about not getting out as much as I’d like with her because I’m so tired
Working! I feel guilty leaving her in nursery for 3 days a week
I feel guilty for those days when I’m exhausted and we have an indoors sofa day
I feel guilt for working a high pressured, full time job and having both of my children in full time nursery so young
Leaving work, so not providing financially
I both worry about and feel guilty about not getting it right
The impact when I lose it and shout, how me and my partner speak to each other at times
She goes to nursery 5 days a week and I don’t think I’ll ever not feel guilty about that
Everything! I’m back at work and I feel guilty being away from him. I worry that he’s okay in nursery, I worry about money and being able to provide for him. I worry about whether we’ll be able to afford to give him a sibling.
Not always being present enough
I feel guilty about doing anything for myself
Being Mum is about giving you a voice and a place to read other women’s experiences to normalise motherhood and to ease the isolation.
It’s also about starting a conversation about motherhood, about how individual it is and the impact it can have.
Please do read, share and take part.
North East Birth & Baby is where you can read about pregnancy, birth and early parenting.
As a doula I work with parents from across Newcastle and Tyneside.
Copyright: Janine Smith