All posts filed under: Baby Essentials

Can I Cuddle My Baby?

Can I Cuddle My Baby? comes up a lot especially from new mums with a baby who just wants to cling to them. This post is about baby development, your parenting instincts, what’s normal and why cuddling babies and children is not just lovely it’s crucial. In Western society babies can be seen as creatures to train and parents are encouraged to make their babies independent and self soothing. Any parent who cuddles, carries and soothes their baby can be seen as giving in, as failing, as making a rod for their own back. So, if you are asking Can I Cuddle My Baby? Here’s what the research tell us… When your baby is born  he has approximately 200 billion brain cells but there are very few connections between these cells – these connections are mainly responsible for emotional and social intelligence. 90% of brain growth takes place in the first five years of life Early stress (prolonged crying) can create negative changes in a  baby’s brain which could mean they develop an over-sensitive stress response (stress and anxiety) …

Early Days With Your Baby

The early days with your baby can be calm and quiet, giving you chance to heal and slowly adjust or it can be overwhelming and chaotic as you try to meet your baby’s needs. You need to look after yourself in those early days – rest, eat & drink regularly – and it can also help to get some support and reassurance about life with a new baby, as well as to talk through the birth of your baby. The early days can also be full of huge emotions, as your hormone levels change, your milk comes in and you might be feeling pretty sore from birth. In those early days with your baby it can be helpful to remember… to expect some chaos with no schedule – your baby’s needs will vary day by day and they are just working out their new world as well some babies are placid and adjust to life outside the womb really easily, while others need much more reassurance and all the cuddles to feel secure to get …

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Rest with a newborn

The early days and weeks can be all about finding your feet with your new baby but it is also about looking after you. You have been pregnant, you have birthed and now you have a newborn baby so you need to rest as much as you can. You will be in doing mode soon enough, so take an opportunity to be looked after while you can. Plan in rest, plan in snoozes and a chance to just potter. The early weeks can be about giving yourself permission to take it easy, so you are not rushing around. One thing that mums often say is that they wish they had rested more in the early days. You can book a session with me if you have questions, need some additional support or preparation for birth & baby. antenatal & postnatal specialist | working with parents since 2002 Always seek medical support if you are concerned about yourself or your baby. Even if it is just a feeling that something isn’t right. For Pregnancy & Birth | For …

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Getting to know your baby

Getting to know your baby is so important, especially during those early weeks and months. As a new parent you may be reaching for the books – these can be great for reassurance but watch your baby to get to know his needs and his cues. It doesn’t happen over night, it takes weeks to get to know your baby and that it totally fine. Getting to know your baby: cues This is a basic guide to your baby’s cues – noticing these simple ways of communicating can help you to get to know your baby and to try to meet his needs before he starts crying. New babies need… food – with tiny stomachs babies need to feed little and often on demand rather than a schedule love – this doesn’t happen straight away but love helps your instincts to kick in warm & dry – so they are comfortable sleep – babies often need frequent sleeps day and night and new babies don’t understand night and day safety – babies need to feel …

Comparing babies

As a postnatal practitioner it is not lost on me that many parents compare their babies with a mythical baby who sleeps and naps well, eats well, is settled, has a schedule, who is an absolute delight, leaving mums rested, happy and fulfilled. Through the decades, parents have been sold a bit of lie, leaving many of them tired, frustrated, unsupported and feeling they are getting it wrong. Babies are neither robots nor dogs to be trained, they are in a constant state of growth and development and, as such, their needs vary greatly, making them unpredictable. It is this that is normal. Biologically, babies are designed to be needy – they physically need looking after and they only have one verbal way of communicating their basic needs for food, comfort, sleep and reassurance. There are subtle body language cues but they are not always obvious and a baby’s needs can vary so much from day to day, especially in those early days and weeks. There are no easy answers or quick fixes where babies …